In the video below, Erica Hill talks to Woman’s Day editor Jamie Zanziger who says some of the traditional rules about what makes a healthy marriage are myths.
She seeks to dispel “Never go to bed angry” as a myth. However, I prefer to accept the wisdom of the Bible:
“In your anger do not sin” : Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry…”
If we are committed to resolving issues each day and work at that discipline, the opportunities for there to be an accumulation of anger and frustration.
I would also not encourage lying to your partner. Not sharing every detail in life is not the same as lying.
Sleeping in separate beds because of anger can be seen as getting practice for “trial separation” which is often a precursor to divorce.
These “guidelines” as I would prefer to call them are worthy of note and can set the tone for a happy and lasting marriage.
Watch here then return to give your feedback.
Geneis 2:24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
Marriage needs to achieve these three objectives:
- Leaving parents
- Uniting with a wfie
- Becoming one flesh
Many marriages fail to clear the first hurdle. Some couples never quite leave their parents. Here are some manifestations of marriages being negatively impacted by excessive involvement of parents in marriages:
- Demanding that the marital home be run exactly as Mom ran hers.
- Constantly comparing whatever your partner does with your family experience.
- Spending more time with your parents than with your spouse.
- Seeking refuge in the family home when conflicts arise.
- Calling on your parents to intervene and resolve disputes.
A frightening number of marriages are being ripped apart by a failure to fit step-children into the mix. While husbands dote on their progeny, wives are driven to despair.
In the first place, as wife she has been addressing the issue of working to get two individuals from different maturing experiences to live as one harmoniously. Isn’t that enough to keep a normal person occupied?
It is usually best for newlyweds to get acclimatized to marriage and to living together before bringing children into the picture.
Have you fully evaluated the impact of a new birth on the relationship between husband and wife?
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TrevorESSmith has been married for over 3 decades – to the same wife. He has 3 successful daughters, 2 sons-in-law, a grandson and granddaughter who make it so much easier on the journey to Success in Marriage. He is an author (Success in Marriage and R.O.M.P.) and people skills, inter-personal relations and performance enhancement coach. http://www.swpacademy.com
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The techniques that are used to raise children are often handed down through generations without much modification. The principles laid down by great grandparents and their attitude to discipline tend to be evident in the child rearing practices of the present generation.
This is compounded by the fact that two separate family trees have contended on a daily basis through these generations about the principles and techniques to be used. Even minor differences in approach might produce conflict because parents are passionate about what is best for their children.
There is consensus that those words describe what grandchildren are to grandparents.
Is there another side to this?